Husband Guide
Ever wish marriage came with a manual? If only life could be so easy! Most men could use a husband guide to with give exact instructions to get them from Point A to Point B. You know, one hundred and one husband tips for an incredible marriage. But alas….God finds humor in wiring men and women differently, but aren’t we glad he does? Just think how boring life could be without our differences. Anyway, your wife does not expect you to be perfect, but she does want you to at least try. It’s not a hard as it might sound, and she’s worth it, right? So here’s some pointers to help.
Here is the basic list that you need to master first:
1. Love her. 2. Show her you love her with actions. 3. Respect her both in private and in public. 4. Spend time with her. 5. Apologize when you are wrong. 6. Put her above all things except God. 7. Go to church with her. 8. Listen and talk to her everyday. 9. Protect her always. 10. Do little things for her.
Got that out of the way, so now we can talk about other things you can do. I have been married to my wonderful husband for almost 14 years and we have two little boys, so I can impart some wisdom to all you loving husbands who think you are lost. Let’s get started…..
1. You Are Not Off Track As Much As You Might Think.
You deserve a pat on back. You have already made some good choices. First, you were smart enough to find the woman of your dreams, then you had the sense to marry her. Second, you made the intelligent decision to find information to improve your marriage. (You can always improve even the best marriage, even if it is already incredible.) Next, all you need to do is change the way you do a few things and you will see some magnificant changes in your marriage.
2. Consider Telling Your Wife That You Are Making Some Changes.
Honesty is always the best policy and in some instances it might be good to come right out and tell your wife that you want to improve your marriage. When you tell her you are taking steps in that direction she might even give you some pointers to help you out. Every wife is different but she might give you specific things you can do to make her happier.
3. Start With Some Little Things.
Making changes can be difficult and even harder to maintain. That is why you need to aim for no more than one little change each week. If this seems daunting go for every two weeks. You need to make a plan that you will actually stick to. A husband guide is only useful if you follow it.
4. Set Aside At Least 20 Minutes Each Day To Give Her Your Complete Attention.
You are probably thinking that is not much time, but it may be more quality time than you are spending together now. Set aside the time just after you get home each day or right before bedtime. It can be hard to establish this habit, but the importance of this step in improving your marriage can not be overstated.
5. Make a List of Things You Do That Annoy Her.
Now is the time to be honest. You know the things you do that drive her up the wall. Do you always leave the kitchen cabinet doors open? (Some of us girls are short, you know, and those doors have sharp corners.) Do you leave the lid off the toothpaste every day? How are you on remembering your anniversary every year? Could it be that you put your mother before you wife? You cannot fix your issues wif you are not honest.
6. Take Charge – You Are the Boss of You!
Attack that list of annoying things. It is important to write this all down. Draw a line down the middle of a sheet of paper. Now list the behaviors on one side and the action you will take to fix the problem on the other side. Implement one thing each week. This step goes a long, long way. It is sort of like your own personalized husband guide. This is NOT difficult. You are the boss of you and you simply must decide that your marriage and her happiness is worth the time and effort. It pays off big in the end, trust me.
7. Fix the Huge Things.
Honestly, some things take more time and effort to overcome. If you and your wife have undergone a huge hurt in your marriage, then outside counseling might be needed. Real men take charge and make real steps to fix problems in their home and marriage. There are lots of places to get free conseling out there, especially in churches. Try one and see what happens. If a particular counselor does not seem right for you, go find another one. Don’t give up.
8. Love Her – and Show It To Everyone.
Here is the way to make her truly happy. Actually show her that you love her instead of just telling her. Show her in big ways that wow everyone around her. You like to feel wanted, loved, and admired, right? She does too. Surround her with so much love and attention that she is floating on air. Think that won’t make an impact on her?
So how do you do that? Pack a great picnic and candle and surprise her at work. Just eat it at her dest if necessary. Or just go to her break room, does not matter. Bring her a flower everyday for a week (or a month). Place notes for her everywhere in the house or at her work. Send or drop off small presents for her at work. Rent a large billboard and say “happy birthday” to her. Place an add in the newspaper. Say lovely things about her on your Facebook page. Always show love and adoration for her in front of all your friends and family. Lots of hugs and kisses with some special compliments help do the trick. You want the world to know how great you think she is.
The last step is get to work. Little things make a big impact, so it will not take long start enjoying the benefits of your efforts. The changes will be huge and you will soon want to do more things for her. Too many spouses are only willing to put in their 50 percent of effort into their marriages. If you don’t keep score and just make a committment to put in 100 percent yourself, your wife will probably find your wife starting to put in 100 percent too.
Hope this husband guide will begin a new phase in your marriage. May you life and marriage be harmonious and filled with love.
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