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Internet dating sites can be very useful. You’re able to explore all kinds of options in a short amount of time in the comfort of your own home. While you browse through the profiles you can pick the ones of interest and learn a few things about the person. All of this before you even decide to initiate a conversation.

There is a downside to internet dating and that’s the extra excitement that all this pre date talking creates. Heightened expectations can be a direct result which in turn can make any disappointment on your first meeting all that much more intense.

At times this disillusionment is caused by one very obvious, yet unexpected, attribute in your date. Though it can be funny, it’s usually just frustrating and sometimes even a bit frightening. Not sure how to handle it when your date turns out to be shorter than you are? Read on!

This is a fairly common occurrence in the world of online dating. People have the unfortunate tendency to exaggerate their profiles. Which in this particular case was cute enough that you were ready to meet his mother! Add that to the fact that he could carry a conversation and the decision to meet in person was an easy one.  Read more...

First impressions are always important, but internet dating has altered the whole scenario. If you’ve met someone online, chances are your first date will be with someone that you’ve already been communicating with, perhaps even for weeks or months.

Then again, many of us haven’t given up on encountering eligible singles in the real world as opposed to the internet dating world. Truthfully, most of us are doing both. And why not?! Let’s face it, we’re all busy and we all want to maximize our dating potential.

The variations in rules between the different arenas of romantic meetings can be a bit daunting. If you met person A in location B, is it okay to suggest activity C on the first date? Fortunately, some things stay universally true. At the top of this list? The ways in which you make an unforgettable first impression.

First impressions don’t care where or how you met. Whether at a friend’s party, doing the face to face thing with that cutie you met on an internet dating site or meeting someone in your professional circle; you want someone to think the best of you. The tactics are pretty straightforward.  Read more...

Love is one of the most mysterious, yet wonderful things that we have been given. There have been many arguments between the sexes. Some men state that they do not understand women. Some women debate that men are insensitive. This battle of the sexes continues, and it seems as though neither sex is going to come out ahead. In the defense of the female population there is but another complaint.

One thing that has always baffled me about a certain percentage of the male species is their apparent inability to carryout promises that they make. Correction, the inability to follow through with promises that they make to a woman. For example: A guy may tell you that he will call you at a certain time, and more than likely he has no intention call you at all. In addition, he may also state that he will come by to see you at a specific time, or make plans with you to do something, and when the time does come he is nowhere to be found.  Read more...

Whenever I break off a relationship I go into a “they don’t exist anymore” mode for a while. This gives me the time I need to cry, eat chocolate and gain weight, lose that weight, cry some more and curse them to hell and back. Then and only then can I make peace with the pig, err, I mean, that wonderful person who I don’t want anymore.

Okay, it’s not a perfect system. Another reason I do this ignoring dance is to give myself ample opportunity to work through the “I want him back” feelings. Because I don’t usually give up without a fight so if we broke up for real, chances are there was a really good reason why.

This doesn’t work for everyone. During the ignoring and grieving time, some people come to the realization that what they really want is their partner back! This can be a tricky proposition, and you have to realize that sometimes it’s going to be impossible.

What are you reasons for wanting him or her back?  Read more...

I love first dates, I truly do, but I have to say I’m over them. There’s so much build up, so much pressure (not to mention uncomfortable shoes) and don’t even get me started on the billions of articles out there about first dates. Really, it’s all a big to do about one night, and when you stop to think about it, it isn’t THE most important.

It’s definitely special; this is where first impressions are made and hopefully the first sparks fly. And the legendary third date is where, according to tradition, you let your new sweetie see your sexy under things. Of course, nowadays it’s altogether possible that that magic moment happened at any time, from pre-first date until your wedding night. But still, I think we all continue to get the third date rush.

The date that comes in between one and three (that would be number two!) really doesn’t get the attention it deserves. In my opinion, the second date is where you discover the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. First date jitters are a memory; you’re more relaxed and less nervous than the first time around. More importantly, even though there is a mutual attraction, the overwhelming thoughts of sex are usually on the back burner. The newness of it all though make this date exciting!  Read more...

One of the nice things about a new relationship is when you realize that it’s not so new anymore. You have come to think of yourselves as a couple complete with couple habits and routines. At the same time you’ve started to let go of parts of your single life.

When your sweetie goes out of town for a few days, there’s a break in your routine. You have become used to having him around and suddenly, no one! It can be a bit unsettling because, well, you’re in love! This doesn’t make you dependent, it just means you’re a bit out of sorts.

Fear not, friends. This can actually be a serious glass-half-full situation. There are more good things than you think that come with being alone for a while mid-relationship. Here are a few suggestions to get you started:

Letting go

Okay, not ugly ugly (theres never any reason to not take care of yourself. That should not be dependent on a loves presence) but you can safely get away with not shaving your legs or worry about hanging around in your oh-so-comfy but totally unflattering sweatpants.  Read more...

Internet dating is convenient. You have the luxury of logging onto to your favorite internet dating site whenever you have time. You can weed through hundreds of potential matches in minutes. Dating sites built in organization allows you to keep up with people through various means of communication. It’s no wonder that internet dating is no longer a fad but a legitimate means of find a date!

Spare time is something that most of us have in limited quantity. A common reason for lack of spare time is the presence of children; biology’s little time consumers. Before you misunderstand, let me add that I do NOT have children. Therefore I don’t pretend to have the know-how to write advice of any kind about the perils of single parenting and dating.

Though I do NOT have kids of my own, I do have single parent friends. I’ have also been known to dip my toes in the single daddy pool once or twice. From that, I have acquired a little experience about the ins and outs of dating someone who has children which I share with you now.

Enjoy kids  Read more...

The first step in internet dating is creating a profile; you post some photos of yourself, and you list your personal characteristics. You include some interesting facts about yourself and perhaps a funny anecdote or two to show off your sense of humor. And if you’re at all blessed with the gift of the gab, you can probably write a novella about your life while you’re at it.

Now the fun begins; it’s time to start searching for the man or woman of your dreams. Using the site’s built in search, you select your dream date’s criteria, hit the search button and wait for the results. Seconds later, your matches are displayed.

As you read through the profiles looking for clues of his or her personality, there are a few things you need to keep an eye out for. These are character traits that are not particularly flattering. More importantly, they could be relationship deal breakers.

Spitefulness. The occasional sarcastic remark disguised as a joke is amusing. But if your date has nothing but sarcastic and critical things to say about the people in his or her life, think twice. Ask yourself this question; If your date says nothing upbeat and encouraging about anyone else, what is he or she going to say about you?  Read more...